Going KonMari On Alcohol When You Are A Polytheist

Now that the November leaves are flurrying down off the trees and my four-year inspiration to drink is on his way out of the White House, I made a “simple but not easy” personal decision. This has been on my mind for a while, the more so after reading an excellent article by Lorna Smithers mentioning alcohol use and Asperger’s. I unapologetically love a good beer, but after some reflection, I came to the conclusion that I have been using alcohol to lessen my own feelings of anxiety as an Aspie.

As you might expect, I take the law very seriously and my use of alcohol mirrors that. (Sidebar: it is disturbing that some recent shows on Netflix–e.g., Grace and Frankie and Cobra Kai—treat DUIs like just a “fun” bit of plotline… at the very least, let’s see characters who drink and drive, and thereby thoughtlessly endanger innocents’ lives, get arrested and convicted.) Law or no, I decided this is the right time to “KonMari” my alcoholic beverage intake. Eliminate the clutter and leave just enough to spark joy. As a result, in my personal world booze is now for Saturdays only. I’m already noticing deeper and improved sleep.

This also means a shift in how I do offerings. Djehuty and Odin especially would tend to get alcohol on the days I honor Them (Monday or Tuesday for Djehuty and Wednesday for Odin). For now, though, if I am giving Them alcohol, it will have to be on Saturdays. They are both quite supportive and are all right with receiving other offerings such as incense on Their regular days, while waiting until Saturday if They want something stronger. Our Gods and Goddesses are good Gods and Goddesses. They are eternal Holy Powers who very much recognize efforts to do something positive for one’s well-being. My personality is such that I need a realistic and set rule to make a “simple but not easy” change stick.

Why Saturday in particular? I treat Saturday as Forseti’s day–going back to the old idea of it once being the bathing and cleansing day, and making a few additional mental jumps to connect it with holy waters and the legend of Him bringing forth a clear spring by striking His axe into the turf. I don’t ask that to make sense to anyone else. It works for me.

Of course, you can’t just take a comfort away and leave nothing in its place. The other six days of the week, I have herbal teas and an occasional bold caffeinated tea (for various reasons, I finally got off regular coffee at the beginning of this year and have not looked back). Like the article linked above says, fulfilling alone time is also vital. These might not be the most helpful answers ever for a neurotypical person. They are, however, my answers.

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  1. Interesting coincidence you recently linked to this. Since the post I have managed to beat my alcohol dependency, staying off it for 8 months, but I have started drinking in moderation again. I started with a small glass of mead to celebrate the day I first met Gwyn after pouring an offering of mead for him and again shared with mead with him on his feast day. The prospect of not drinking at Gwyn’s Feast was just far too depressing and having a drink with him is one of my ways of celebrating and communing. I’m now comfortable with using alcohol in ritual and have started having a few beers for enjoyment and wind down time once a week on a Friday and think I have the right balance now.

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    1. That is very interesting timing! Totally agree, the right balance is everything. With caffeine, I had to go off it completely, even no chocolate, for a number of months to get to where I needed to be with it. I am so glad you found what works for you and Gwyn! Thank you for your article. It was definitely thought-provoking!

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  2. I’m proud of you! After struggling with alcohol abuse when I was way too young to be drinking alcohol, this has always been my method. Only stuff that makes me excited to drink it, and only on special days. For me this means I drink a glass of mead or a glass or whiskey liquor every two months or so.
    I feel you about the DUI’s. In my country alcohol is a bigger problem than drugs (both are legal) but no one sees to see it that way. When you say you don’t drink you’re seen as weird. It was in the news that the sales of beer during the corona time has skyrocketed and even beat the sales of toiletpaper. The reason according to them: we barbequed more during the summer…. Not that people need ways to cope with this pandemic and all the unrest in the world… barbequeing… I feel we’re blind to the effects the normalization of alcohol has on our society. Which is a completely different rant that I will not put under your post hahaha. Sorry, rambly! Anyway, still proud of you!

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    1. Thank you so much! I thought the Netherlands in general had a healthier attitude towards alcohol, but then again, I was only visiting! The American way seems to be make it illegal until you are 21, so younger people get false ID’s to try it… our culture makes it a “forbidden fruit” and that creates all sorts of dissonance. It is truly strange what is considered “normal.” I could get into an entire separate spiel about how caffeine has also, like alcohol, become so widely accepted… an addictive psychoactive drug that literally blocks receptors in the brain and that some studies show is behind road rage, not to mention all sorts of health issues like IBS, anxiety, anemia, etc. etc. It’s good to step back from it all and to do what is right for us as individuals! Thank you again! 🙂

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      1. Luckily our campaign (nothing 18) has had some effect. The next generation generally doesn’t really care for alcohol (or sigarettes). So that is a very good development. And indeed, tabacco, caffeine, alcohol, all things considered pretty normal when those things cause so much more death than drugs… Everyone should be free to consume whatever they want of course, but we need more awareness and indeed to take a step back and see what is right for us as individuals. Well said!

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